You don’t have to scroll far or flip channels long to notice—our culture is kinda obsessed with sex.
Glamorous models sell us everything from fast food to life insurance. Every other song on the radio sounds like a love letter to lust. Even TV shows that aren’t about dating somehow end up being about… dating.
And for the everyday guy like Walt—trying to do right by his family, put in a good week’s work, maybe even catch the game—it’s hard to make sense of it all. Is all this really what we were made for?
So let’s have the talk. Not that talk. But this one—real, honest, and hopeful.
Sex Isn’t the Problem—Confusion Is
Here’s something you might not hear in church often enough:
Sex is good.
Wait, what?
Yeah. God invented it. It was His idea before it was anyone else’s. Pleasure, connection, reproduction—God designed it all. It’s not a glitch. It’s not a marketing strategy. It’s part of His good creation.
But like fire in a fireplace, it’s only life-giving when it stays within its intended boundary. Take it out of the fireplace and it burns down the house.
The Noise of a Culture Without Boundaries
Our culture treats sex like a game—casual, cheap, and endless. From dating apps built on one-night stands to reality shows that skip the relationship and go straight to the bedroom, the message is loud:
“If it feels good, go for it.”
But feelings don’t always lead to flourishing.
Some of us learned that the hard way. Others are still trying to make sense of the fallout—regret, heartache, trust issues, or just this lingering ache for something more.
Walt gets that. He’s no prude, but he’s not buying what the world’s selling either.
Mixed Messages, Deep Questions
Maybe you grew up in a home where sex was hush-hush and shame-heavy. Or maybe it was the opposite—no boundaries, just “do what makes you happy.”
Wherever you come from, one thing’s clear: when it comes to sex, everyone’s got an opinion. But not all of them lead to peace.
So what does the Bible say?
God’s Design Isn’t Old-Fashioned—It’s Brilliant
Right out of the gate, Genesis 2:24 lays it out:
“A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
Sex is more than physical—it’s bonding. Soul-connecting. It was designed to create intimacy within a lifelong promise called marriage.
It’s not about denying desire. It’s about honoring it enough to protect it.
God’s not anti-sex. He’s pro-wholeness.
He’s the one who created pleasure, but He also created covenant—because He knows the power of sex to either build intimacy or break hearts.
Boundaries Are a Gift, Not a Punishment
Think about it. We use boundaries every day to protect what matters.
Speed limits keep families safe on the road. Warning labels keep us from swallowing poison. Even our smartphones have passwords because we don’t want just anyone accessing our stuff.
God’s boundaries for sex aren’t about control. They’re about care.
Sex inside marriage is a gift that keeps giving. It builds trust. It fosters unity. It deepens connection. Sex outside of marriage? It might feel good in the moment, but often leaves more questions than answers.
God’s way helps us avoid pain—and step into purpose.
Yeah, But What If I Already Blew It?
You’re not disqualified.
Seriously. God is a Redeemer. That means He doesn’t throw people away—He restores them.
No matter what your past looks like, no matter the choices you made, there’s grace for you. You can reset. You can recommit. You can step into something new.
You haven’t missed your chance. In fact, this might be the moment that changes everything.
A Smart Bet on a Good God
In the seventeenth century, a famous philosopher and mathematician, Blaise Pascal, encouraged people to make a wager when it came to belief in God.
He said it like this:
If you believe in God and He does exist, you gain everything—eternal life.
If you believe in God and He doesn’t exist, you lose nothing.
But if you don’t believe in God and He doesn’t exist, again—you lose nothing.
However, if you don’t believe in God and He does exist? You lose everything.
So, let’s reframe that:
If believing gives you everything to gain and nothing to lose—why not believe?
Pascal concluded that the rational person would choose belief. Because it’s the only option that doesn’t come up empty.
Wherever you are in your faith journey—curious, skeptical, wrestling, or wondering—what if you took that wager?
What if the God of the Bible really does exist?
What if He really created you with purpose?
What if He really has a good plan for your sexuality, your relationships, and your future?
You’ve got nothing to lose…
And everything to gain.
